Thursday, May 10, 2012

if i proofread this i will delete everything

Today would have been my parents 27th wedding anniversary. I say would have been because I don't know exactly how to describe the relationship because my very alive mother and my father who has passed on. Describe? Is that what I need to do? Believe. That's it. I believe they are still married I believe they still exist as a couple as well as individuals. I believe that celebrating their anniversary is still something we should all do. I also believe that when my mother remarries the man who now exists in our lives in the flesh just like the other one did that she will also be married to my Dad. My dad exists for eternity and her friend exists in our immediate present. We can all take a deep breath knowing she is happy and that life goes on after tragedy.
When I was 18 my dad wrote a song for me called "Be You." The message of the song, which I haven't listened to in 3 years, is to find out who you are and love that person, find out who God is and love Him, and to develop traits you would like to have. Lately, the answer to every question I ask myself is, "Be You."
When I was 21 I worked for my dad. He was my favorite boss because of his transparency, hard work, and integrity. He was so strong and respected but it wasn't because he was a strong armer. It was because he was smart and right. I love that. That is the kind of business woman I want to be. Smart and right. And when I'm wrong, I want to embrace the ideas of those around me to find the best solution.
All of my questions are answered by what he taught me. Sometimes I forget what he would say so I do the wrong thing. But today, I remember.

5 comments:

The Nothums said...

Elyse, I don't know if you remember me or not from our stake growing up but, we did. Our dad's were friends. And I know if you knew that my dad passed away in January from complications from a stroke....completely unexpectedly. But I love reading your blog. And obviously much more than before, I relate to a lot of things that you say. His birthday was last month. He would have been 47. I don't imagine that I, or we, will ever stop struggling. I'm just still searching for peace. Your mom has been kind to my mom in our loss. Thanks for writing what you feel. =)

Elyse Dial said...

Katie of course I remember you and heard about your dad. Thank you for your comment. what your email address?

The Nothums said...

katienothum@gmail.com

Kyria M Dial said...

This is mom btw

27 years. Don't want to lose out on any of the time I got to spend or will get to spend with Dad. Yippee for Eternity! Love you Momo

Daisy said...

Elyse, you are amazing, and I love you. We will celebrate your Father and my Brother together! Your Mom sent me a CD of Rod singing, and I love the song he wrote for you, it's so "cut to the chase, bottom line" in it's message. I remember when you were really young, being at your Grandma Larimore's house & sitting outside talkint to your Dad. You came up and said "Daddy, Daddy, Daddy, Daddy..." and he said "say what you came to say", and the rest I don't remember, but I do remember the kind, gentle, patient way he spoke to you. He will be with you forever...